We all know that there are lots of differences between men and women. This doesn’t only cause us more stress, but also about how we should handle it. Most guys can surely agree that when it comes to the kids and the house, which a lot of men refer to as a home stress, you and your family could not be more different.
If you are reading this right now and you’re a husband and a father, you can surely agree that you really do not suffer from much home stress than your wife. If the house is not clean, men can easily ignore it. If the kids will eat chicken nuggets or hotdogs five days in a row, you’ll let them. But the red flag is that it’s a very big deal for your other half.
The chaos of your children, homework, after-school activities, scrambling to make dinner, can certainly drive your wife crazy…and MAD! Even though you can simply brush it off easily. So, do not bother asking why. Simply accept it, never try to argue, and do not convince her by saying that “everything is fine.” Instead, if you really want to find out why your wife is stressed, continue reading below. It is time to move forward and in order to keep your relationship with your wife and your wife’s sanity intact, then it’s your major role to help your partner deal with that home stress.
Here are the things you need to do in order to make this happen.
- Pay Attention
The very first step you should do to help solve this problem is to know that there’s actually a problem. So, put down your phone, shut off your autopilot, and make sure to PAY ATTENTION by listening and showing your sincerity to your wife. Just look for changes in her mood swings or behavior if it’s more than normal and notice if she is overly emotional, teary, or more withdrawn or agitated than usual. You need to know these things so that you can be able to begin correcting.
- Trying to “SOLVE” All Her Problems is Not a Good Idea
Men, I know this is a tricky one. In fact, you are going to use your best judgment and common sense at this point. Because she actually wants you to solve or fix something at times, but at other times, all she wants is for you to listen to what she’s constantly saying and tell her you fully understand. In the end, common sense would be the one to dictate that if she is annoyed about the leaking toilet, then you must probably just repair it, right? Yes, of course, you should do that!
- Ask Your Wife What You Can Do to Help Her (And Make Sure to Follow Through)
Wives all over the world certainly have a myriad of things in their to-do list. From that, you can tell that they are getting clearly overwhelmed. So, as a partner, just step up and ask about how you can help her with that list. She might directly tell you some specific things that she wants you do, or she might simply rattle off the list.
Just pick some things that you can do and try to tell her that you can take care of it. Maybe it’s paying bills, scheduling doctor appointment, or taking the children to that birthday party, it’s surely a big help for your wife. Really men, just use your common sense, initiative and your love for your wife and kids, and everything will surely follow through. No matter how hectic your schedule is, always try to find a few minutes in order to help her out. You can do that before bed, on the drive home, during lunch at work, and many more. Always remember that anything you can take off your wife’s load certainly brings her a HUGE relief.